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I feel ugly and smell and smell down below. Is this normal?Fri, Mar 27th 2009
I am in my early fifties and have been married for over 30 years. I guess we have had an OK sex life but as I only have ever been with my husband I have nothing to compare it with. My husband has always enjoyed a "quickie" in the mornings which is essentially sex without him having to bother to arouse me, and for many years I went along with this just to keep him happy. However, about 5 years ago I found he had a string of affairs and one-night stands which had taken place over the previous 20 years. We almost split up but then decided to give it a go as our family are really important to us, none of the women meant anything to him and he was adamant that he would give up on this lifestyle. I believe he has done this - it was enough that he nearly lost me and his family so I don't think he will risk it again. Sorry I am being very long-winded here!! Anyway, for a while after I found out our sex life was fine, but as I have regained confidence I have begun to question some of our sexual practices which seem to be about his needs and nothing to do with mine. This morning "quickie" thing comes into this category and I now want him to at least try to arouse me so that I can have some pleasure from this too. He says that I smell in the mornings and so he doesn't like arousing me!! (I expect you were wondering when I was going to get around to the question, weren't you?) I think he is probably right and I do smell - it is something I have become aware of more recently (as I get older, maybe?) despite having showers last thing before I go to bed. I know I can always get up and shower (and I do!) but this rather spoils the moment and I find myself thinking about all the other women who didn't have to do this but who didn't apparently smell!! Is this smelling as I get older normal and is there anything I can do about it? I feel so ugly and it is making me feel like I don't want sex at all. Also, I feel full of resentment about the other women. I don't really know whether this is a physical problem or a mental one. Please help me!
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