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Frustrated and Sucked DryWed, Oct 29th 2003
'Frustrated' writes: Anne, I am frustrated! My husband is disabled not to the point that he can't function physically but he has RSDS which stops him from working a job due to constant pain and meds that he is on. Here is my dilemma, he either doesn't do anything at the house or he starts things and they don't get done fully. His excuse is he always gets interrupted. When i confront him with it he gets defensive and states "I clean up the house". I have run out of solutions. I would appreciate your input. I work full time outside the home and end up having no time to do the things I enjoy while everyone in the family around me does. Thanks 'Sucked Dry' writes: I am going to be 52 in the Spring, I am 7 yrs into my 1st marriage and I feel totally sucked dry by my husband and my 18 yr old son. I have severe boughts with depression and I am the main wage earner in our household. I'm not sure if I love my husband .. I feel really used - he works as a musician in a band and refuses to even try to find real work .. he has degenerative disc and refuses to go to Dr. He is a pothead - says he uses it for his pain - and I - we are always teetering on loosing everything. If I divorce him he has told me he will take everything he can and then he swears he will never leave. I feel trapped and hopeless .. I love my home and I don't want to be homeless and poverty stricken in my later years. I feel so trapped!!!!
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